Boys are well known for talking and thinking about sex all the time. I'm generalising, but it's okay to do that with facts.
So, imagine my surprise to find out that boys dislike talking about sex in the context of their own sex life. This doesn't apply to when they exaggerate about their own sex life to their friends but only when talking to their girlfriend about the reality of their sex life.
The question is, how does one start a conversation about issues in one's sex life with one's boyfriend without making him feel inadequate?
You could be forgiven for thinking "easily" (after all, we're all grown-ups here, and it's just sex), but you would be wrong. There is literally nothing you can say to a man about any issues you have with your sex life without him assuming that you are just days away from leaving him for a well-oiled gigalo.
Try it out. Every statement you might possibly try and make to your boyfriend will be heard as "You are inadequate."
What you say: "I'd probably like it if we had sex more often."
What he hears: "You are inadequate and I am unsatisfied."
What you say: "I don't want to have quite as much sex as you seem to want to have."
What he hears: "You are inadequate and so bad in bed I can't bare it more than once a month, and that's being charitable."
What you say: "I'd like it if we spent more time cuddling."
What he hears: "You are inadequate and I see you more as a fat friend than an Adonis-esque lover."
What you say: "Would you like to try something different or kinky sometimes?"
What he hears: "You are inadequate and dull and I have a great deal of kinky experience with highly-sexed male models sporting obscenely large manhoods."
The list could go on.
So, what can we do? Have the "You think I'm inadequate" row ultimately ending in tears and retractions or keep the lip stiff and the porn handy?
You tell me. My girlfriends and I are at a loss.